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01 March 2005
There's something I would like to share with you khakis... Something to ponder back for people who is in love like ME!!! Weeeeeeeeee....... For singles, stay out!! Muahaha... Although it's lengthy but do enjoy it!!!
THE FUNDAMENTALS OF LOVE.....
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on him. You found yourself charmed by the way he talks,the way he dresses himself to show off his best features and the way he embraces life with his laughter. It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has suddenly developed to draw you closer to him.
You two then began to meet regularly,and you discover more things that you admire about him. His clever ideas, his healthy values and the way he stands up for you when others doubt you. You find yourself thinking of him not just as a normal friend, but a very good friend. It is often during this period that a boy and a gal will start thinking of bringing their friendship to another level.After all, the kind of wonderful experience you have between each other can only become even better if it develops into aromantic relationship. In other words, the feeling is really unique -no one else seems able to replace him in your heart.So both of you agree to go steady and work even harder on the relationship.
You "graduate" to become a couple, and are the envy of the sea of singles.When You Forget The Fundamentals. However, at some point in your relationship,you forgot how it all began. You start to take your partner for granted. Why can't he laugh in a more manly manner? Why doesn't he dress himself more trendily? Why must he assert his views and point out your silly mistakes? Is he really the one for you? To be fair to yourself and to him, take some time to reflect on your "love memory". The "love memory"contains all the reasons that you fell in love with him right from Day One. It contains rarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed since meeting and loving him. Pre-steady days, did you heap compliments on him for the brave way he spoke he mind on bullies and snobs? You probably did. Did you like his unusual fashion sense that makes him stand out from the crowd? Right-o. So why are you criticising or finding fault with him now that he is your boyfriend? Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so many of us. You have forgotten the reasons you admired him during the friendship phase. Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in cold storage.
As his girlfriend, you take up a new set of demands and expectations about him. These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your relationship at risk.The Secret Of Strong Relationships: A healthy relationship, like learning towalk properly, follows a step-by-step development. You can't possibly become part of a couple if you aren't friends in the first place.Ok, I know some of us break the rule and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship, but how many of those couples can go the distance? Couplehood works well when there is something you likeabout him (and vice versa), and I'm not referring to merely the physical aspects. So whenever your relationship hits a rockypath, don't give up without checking on your "lovememory". Rediscover the reasons why you fell in love with her, and watch your relationship flourish with a new found vigour.
"Follow the rule of love and enjoy it, as loving someone is a wonderful and sweet experience."
Weeeee.. such a wonderful fundamentals.. Now thinking back on why some married couples with kids wanted to seperate and move on with their own life.. I'm sure things can work out back if they really remember how they first met and the love fundamentals.. Arghh.. Hopefully it won't happen in my circle of life...Someone knew what I meant... wink*wink*
Till then, take care!!
Wassalam~
She wrote @ 1:42 PM
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